‘Why Does My Girlfriend Get Upset When I Talk about Other Women?’

Colin, 25, and his girlfriend live on opposites ends of the country. They’ve agreed to have an open relationship. His girlfriend says she’s supportive of Colin meeting other women, but, that she doesn’t need another man in her life. Every time Colin mentions meeting another woman it triggers a downward spiral in their relationship.

Colin wants to know how to maintain a long-distance relationship with his girlfriend and deal with her possessive emotions?

Dr. Fisch's Advice:

Colin, you’re seeing other women? You say you’re seeing other women, but, your side relationships haven’t turned sexual yet. You need to know that there are two kinds of cheating -- There’s sexual cheating and there’s emotional cheating. Women don’t like it when their man has an emotional relationship with another woman.

You know what women want? Women want monogamy. They don’t want a man who is sleeping with other women or connecting with other women emotionally. You think it isn’t a big deal, but to her it is. You think if you don’t have sex then it's not cheating. She doesn’t feel that way.

Do you want to get married? You’re wavering in your answer. It’s a "yes" or "no" question. It can’t be "maybe."

Men need relationships more than women do. There was a study done recently that showed that women can be healthier without a relationship than men. Men need someone to take care of us. We’re used to having our mother take care of us. It turns out that men need relationships more than women do.

You ask "what do I need a wife or a girlfriend for?" If you’re ready to have children, you get married. I want you to be honest with yourself and with your girlfriend. You need to say “I don’t want to get married and I want to see other women.”

Colin, you’ve got to man up.

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